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Let’s face it … It’s just not working out. It’s not you; it’s him! What started as a blooming and potential long-term romance has become a natural disaster. He’s a great guy but just not right for you. Even your family and friends are wondering, “Why him?”
Whether it is an incompatibility in personality, goals, communication, or in the bedroom, sometimes things just don’t work out. And if you know it’s not going to last, why should your spend your hard earned money to buy him a gift for Christmas?
Honestly, not only have I had a boyfriend break up with me before the holidays, I’ve had to “bust a move” on a few beaus right before Christmas myself. So, here are three ways to break up with your beau before the holidays.
Be Honest.
It’s so hard to say good-bye, but trying to resuscitate a dead situation is not only painful, it can be a waste of time and money. If it’s not working out, be gentle and sensitive to your beau’s feelings, but be honest about your feelings and why you feel that it’s not working out. A real man will appreciate your honesty and who knows, he might just feel the same way. Oh yeah, avoid the blame game. When you are trying to make a clean break; take one for the team by taking ownership of the situation. This will minimize the dramatic exits.
Be Unavailable.
For the passive-aggressive types, the best way to show that you are uninterested is to become overly unavailable. Not responding to text messages or calls, and even ignoring their covert social media posts, may give them hints of your disinterest. If he should invite you to a dinner with his family or a romantic getaway; politely decline his invitation because you have made other plans (even if you don’t know what those plans are yet). This technique may take awhile for him to catch on if he’s not paying attention or refuses to take the hints. If being unavailable doesn’t work, try the first tip … Be Honest.
Be Bitchy.
Although men love “the chase” and some may be attracted to the “Bitchy” type, most men hate to be nagged or complained to or about all of the time. Finding every opportunity to nag or complain may just help him realize that you are not the one. But, be careful. Some men are highly attracted to this type of woman and may latch on even harder. If being “bitchy” doesn’t work and makes him want you more, try the first tip … Be Honest!
On another note … there may be a situation where you don’t want to break up with your beau because you like hanging out with him. However, you don’t necessarily want to exchange gifts this Christmas. Instead of kicking him to the curb, just have “The Gift Talk” to set expectations. Perhaps your “presence” will be the best present you can give to each other.
